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Melinda’s Fight Like a Girl Story (Kidney Failure)

Melinda's Kidney Failure Story My name is Melinda, I’m a wife and mother. I discovered I had kidney failure in the year of 2007. I was tired and sick all the time. One night while my husband was out of town working, I had bad stomach pain. I couldn’t handle it so I went to the ER with my mother. The doctor did a lot of test and found that I had  a lot of protein in my urine. They also told me that my kidneys aren’t functioning correctly.

I was referred to a nephrologist and I learned I was stage 3 kidney failure. I had no idea what was going on. In my opinion I thought maybe I had cancer because I had recently lost my brother to kidney cancer. It was really hard for me to process that I was sick. Everyday for me is a battle of sick days, good days, happy days, angry days, and I even have why me days. My husband and kids are what get me through those hard days. Without them I don’t know what I’d be like.

In 2009, I learned I was pregnant. I had kidney failure and I was pregnant. The doctors said that it wasn’t a good idea for me to be pregnant, plus my baby wouldn’t make it, he/she would perhaps be stillborn or born with disabilities or difficulties.  They even had a specialist come and tell me I should have a medical abortion. Basically it was me or it’s the BABY. Well my husband is my rock and my strength, with a lot of prayer we decided to leave it in Gods hands. On July 27, I had a healthy baby girl.

Meanwhile my doctors did a lot of testing, blood work, biopsies and the cause of my kidney failure is STILL unknown.
Right now, I’m stage 5 and getting iron injections. My kidneys for now are stable at 10% but it’s still the same struggle everyday to just be “NORMAL.”

Until that day comes when I can hopefully be blessed with a new kidney and a gift at living a life that doesn’t consist of being sick all the time. Until that day comes I will remain strong and keep fighting.

Submitted 09/28/2013

The informational content of this article is intended to convey a personal experience and, because every person’s experience is unique, should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.

This article is intended to convey general educational information and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.


  1. Jennifer

    Hang in their Melinda! Your story is almost identical to mine! I found out in 2006 I had Kidney disease when I was pregnant with my first daughter….. In 2009 I was blessed with another baby girl, which the doctors told me the same things would happen and she’s healthy as a horse…… and now I’m stage 5 about 8 or 9% function….. going to get a fistula in a couple weeks! I’m thinking about you and praying for you!

    • melinda

      Thank you so much. i will be praying for as well. i have the fistula. but not yet using it. its ready to go. but i just haven’t started dialysis yet. im kinda having a battle with myself on when to start, i dont wanna start too soon but i also dont want to start too late. i dont know if that makes alot of sense, but. i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers <3

  2. Jami

    Believe it or not, your body will tell you when it’s time to start. I’m 30, diagnosed with kidney disease of unknown cause at age 14. Had a transplant at 18, now on dialysis. I had my fistula placed in may and had to have a chest perma cath placed in June and started dialysis the same day. I didn’t start til I was at 5% function and I couldn’t walk up steps anymore or stand for more than maybe 5min at a time. Dialysis isn’t the end of the world. 2 days after starting I walked around the hospital floor I was on 3 times! When the day before I could barely make it to the bathroom in my room. If you have any questions I have no problem answering them. Hoping you get a kidney soon!

  3. bev kap

    Hi Melinda,

    How are you doing? Congratulations on the birth of your healthy little girl! I was just diagnosed with stage 3 CKD, and I am considering pregnancy.

    Did you find that the pregnancy affected your kidney function or things got worse soon after the baby was born?

    I hope you are able to get the transplant you need and live a long, healthy, beautiful life!

    • mel

      Thank you so much. I was told by doctors that the worse would happen. But I was monitored very closely and I was fine. But alil while after is when my kidney function did go down. It went from 30 to 40% to 10%
      Thanks.for your kind words.

  4. Yazmin

    Hi Melinda,

    I am glad to hear that your baby was born healthy, congratulations. I was also diagnosed with CDK on June 2013 and I am in 3 stage. I am 27 yrs. old and I don’t have any children but I am considering on having one. My doctor keeps telling me it may not be a good idea since my condition can get worse , but my husband and I, we been married for almost 5 years and we would like to become parents. I am just really scared, after reading your post it has giving me so hope that one day I will be able to have a child of my own. My doctor tells me to wait since I am leaking protein in my urine , he said its best if we consider adoption. I don’t know I mean I feel like God is the one who has the last word and he decides what is best for us. Right now I feel good and I have faith that God will get me through a healthy pregnancy one day. I just have a question for you when you became pregnant with your baby, did your kidneys got worse during pregnancy or it started happen afterwards? I am really scared that my condition would worsen and I wont be there for my baby. Any advice would be appreciate it Thanks…I hope you find a donor soon.. My prayers goes to you and your family. God bless !

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