As kids you never worry about the “what ifs” and the real world problems, all you worry about is the next time you get to go outside or play with your favorite toy. As you get older your parents preach to you about pro’s and con’s, they try to guide you and assist in every way that they can. They try to prepare you, but what everyone fails to realize is that you can’t be prepared for the unexpected. People always say, “anything can happen to anyone” that is so true.
A little over two months ago my mom came down with a small cold and after three weeks she still could not break it. She called into the doctors and he made her schedule an appointment, and then told her out of the blue to go get a mammogram. My mom confused and the smart aleck she is said, “I’m only 36, you get those done when you’re 40.” Dr. DeWalt responded, “Obama passed early prevention laws that says you can get them before you turn 40.” So my mom went and got a mammogram, there the doctors told her only 5% this and 2.6% this and kept giving her percentages and stated their opinions and yet she was diagnosed with breast cancer. The most unexpected result. No one in our family has had breast cancer before, normally it’s genetic. My mom got sick, but was still working. She got tired really easily, she was raising three girls, and this all happened in February the week of the 6th-15th.
My mom had kept it all to herself and finally told us two to three weeks before her surgery. My grandparents came into town and I thought they were taking the dog, but really they were there to help me. I realized that it was possible I could lose my mom to cancer. Everyone tried explaining it to me, telling me how likely it was for her to beat it, and how unlikely it was for it spread. We then had come to find out my mom had breast cancer in both right and left breasts. Out of no where, the most unexpected thing changed my life forever.
As spring break approached my sister, Teneea and I prepared ourselves for mom’s surgery, we tried thinking positive around each other and tried our best to stay positive around our mom, we tried not to let her see us cry or weep at night as we laid down, praying to make it through the evening, we event tried denial thinking, “Mom doesn’t have it, surgery isn’t necessary.” But what Teneea and I failed to discuss, what we failed to make sense of at the time, was that God put us in this battle for a reason, God gave us this obstacle because the two of us are some strong warriors. The weekend that we got out for spring break we all went to Kalahari, and for three days we all forgot that on April 1st, which we had planed for my mom to have a double mastectomy.
The first of April came fast, so did my mother dying on the table. After her surgery no one knew if she was going to make it or not. The situation scared everyone, because not only did she die on the table but my mommy also died 48 hours after surgery as well. Finding this news out was devastating. I wanted to spend every waking hour with my mom, but I didn’t really like being there and I really did not like being there when the doses of medication increased. It was hard on me and I’m sure it was hard on everyone else too. My mom not remembering anything was a struggle for me to understand, as well as going to my sister’s basketball games and having to explain why my mom wasn’t there. Teneea and I faced a lot with my mom not being there, and my mommy not being there showed us or at least showed me that God blessed me with an incredible family and I would never give it up for anything.
My mom having cancer taught us that you never give up even when it seems impossible to make it. She taught us that fear controls you as much as you let it, my mom taught us to fight through our struggles so one day you can look back and say I made it, and she taught us that at your weakest moments give it your all. My mom reinforced the fact that, “God has a plan,” and she taught us to never lose faith, even in your darkest hours. My mom is a hero, she is my hero, she’s a fighter, and a survivor. My mom proved the point that you can’t prepare for everything in life, because you have no control on what can happen next. My mom made it.
The informational content of this article is intended to convey a personal experience and, because every person’s experience is unique, should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.
This story is intended to convey a personal experience and, because every person’s experience is unique, should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.