(This blog entry is a fan picked topic…thank you Nicole Bergreen!)
Nicole, had shared with me that during her most recent hospitalization, (#7 within 8 months) she had a CNA at the hospital tell her that if she believed in God and prayed hard enough her POTS and EDS would go away. SERIOUSLY?
I understand that most people cannot grasp the gravity of such a devastating illness if they have never had to experience the symptoms. I also understand people want to lend comfort, and some people find comfort in religion or other ways. But the fact of the matter is that the CNA was completely out of line. For numerous reasons! The most obvious being, how does she know Nicole’s beliefs? Secondly, and most importantly, in her comment of “pray hard enough and it will go away” she is essentially saying that Nicole’s illnesses are not serious, and pretty much all in her head! I believe the line of ignorance was overstepped and this CNA landed squarely into the land of insensitivity.
I always have a problem with people trying to make me feel better by blowing sunshine up my butt with remarks like “It will get better!” or “If you just stay strong you will be just fine!” While I appreciate people wanting to make me feel better, it is infuriating to hear these things! How do they know it will get better and WHEN will it get better? Just stay strong and I will be fine? REALLY? I am as strong as I can be, and I am not any more fine then I was a year ago! I try to keep a positive energy about myself because this illness can easily throw you down the rabbit hole of depression but I am also realistic and I just wish others would respect the fact that I know I am not getting any better and I know that I am not ok.
The fact is, in today’s society, people tend to say things without thinking. The CNA could have just as easily said to Nicole “I don’t know what your belief system is, but if you do believe in God, you may find some comfort in praying.” She would have then acknowledged Nicole’s illness, and respected her unknown belief system. Life would be so much easier if people would just button their lip and think before speaking!
My question for this entry is “Have any of you had an experience where someone crossed the line from ignorance to insensitivity? If so how did you handle the matter?”
I wish you all health and happiness!
Peace & Paw Prints
This article is intended to convey general educational information and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.