Can you tell someone is a serial killer just by looking at them? Can you pick a millionaire out of a group of people all wearing the same exact thing? The answer to both these questions is a resounding NO! So why is it that people think that to be sick you must look a certain way? I am so sick and tired of being judged because I don’t fit peoples description of what someone who is as sick as I am should look like.
I have a few illnesses, RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy), EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome), and CAV (Coronary Artery Vasculitis). The EDS is both Vascular and Hypermobility types. The RSD is full body.
There are days when I am just fine, days I walk with a cane, a walker or days I am bedridden. I can start out fine and suddenly lose my ability to walk. Such is the case last Friday when I was having a rather good day health wise.
I went to fill a prescription and while walking through the store my ankle suddenly dislocated and I couldn’t walk so my husband had to help me to the nearest wall to hold myself up against while he went and got me one of those scooters. Having this disease HURTS but like with everything else you gain a tolerance. Do I scream and yell and cry with my injuries? Very rarely. It happens so often that it hurts but it’s an expected pain. I refuse to cause a scene in public. So I popped emergency meds and carried on with my business, dropping off the scripts and shopping while they were being filled.
My husband and I find humor in everything we do. We were laughing about how slow the carts are and my inability to still drive them well. People of course were staring at me but then this arrogant bitch (yea I said the “B” word!) comes up to me and in a loud and condescending tone sticks her finger in my face and says “How DARE you take this shopping scooter and horse around on it when it is for the sole use of the elderly and handicapped! You should be ashamed of yourself and I demand you remove yourself from it immediately!” Now I am pissed, I would like to hop up and belt her but instead I am polite but to the point. I said “I am disabled and need this to get around the store.” I was biting my tongue and hoping she would let it go. She instead looks me up and down and literally sneers at me and says “You look perfectly fine to me. I’ve seen you laughing and goofing off with your smart alec friend here. The only thing I can see wrong with you is that you have too many tattoos and not enough common sense, decency and respect! Now I am getting the store manager!” I calmly said “go right ahead” (at this point, in my head I was gleefully pummeling her face! LOL!)
The store manager came and I was so bent, in pain and aggravated at this point that my husband proceeds to tell the manager what is wrong with me. Of course the manager has seen me shop here millions of times and since this isn’t my first injury he knew I wasn’t playing. Also my ankle was swollen and changing into its weird light kaleidoscope of colors. He told the woman I was entitled to the use of the scooter as it is for assistance to ALL the customers in need and it is not up to her to judge who is in need and he thanked her for her concern and sent her on her way, muttering under her breath.
I just can’t get over how people in this day and age continue to judge a book by its cover. Whats worse is that instead of politely confronting me to see why I was using the scooter, this woman automatically assumed I was just “horsing around”. Sadly this isn’t the first time it has happened to me and won’t be the last and that is most infuriating. I do not feel like I should have to walk around and explain to everyone why I DON’T look sick. I am annoyed that while I choose to find humor in my unfortunate physical circumstances, others feel that nothing is wrong with me because I choose to laugh instead of cry. It boggles my mind at how arrogant, self righteous and judgmental people can be.
So my question to all of you is “Has anything like this ever happened to you? How did you handle it” Please share your comments and stories below!
I wish you all good health!
Peace & Paw Prints!
This article is intended to convey general educational information and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.