Hello, my name is Charity Ghert, and I am 45-years-old.
I have two children and two grandchildren.
I have no other family members; my parents passed away when I was only 13-years-old.
My mother died of breast cancer at 38. I, myself, was diagnosed with stage 3 invasive breast cancer. I had dmx surgery and had a total of 3 nodes taken from my arms; two in my right and one in my left.
I am fighting my cancer battler alone. I am fighting for my life, and the only person I can depend on is myself.
I am new to the area and haven’t met anyone with a similar diagnosis.
I am scared, and my children are too. I have an abusive ex-husband which makes it very hard for my 16-year-old son and I to live a life of normalcy. It’s not fair that my ex gets to live his life freely while I am fighting for mine; faced with death every day.
I remain strong in this fight, but it’s not easy. I cry a lot when I am alone.
I just want you all to know that if I can do this, you can too.
Charity
Minnesota
Submitted 08/26/2018
This story is intended to convey a personal experience and, because every person’s experience is unique, should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional healthcare advice.
I want you to know that I too fought stage 3 BC alone. Divorced after 34 yrs I lost everything: my home, my friends I knew for over 30 yrs, financial stability gone. Then, 6 mos later dx w BC. My adult kids abondoned me, my ex totally abondoned me. My family never offered any help and still don’t. But I’m doing ok. You’ll be ok. I don’t know how I’ve made it this far, but I did and you too!
Stay strong! You are not alone. I know it’s not easy to go through this with a no family around. Please think of us as your family. We all care for each other in some way. Never give up.
May God be with you and keep you safe and strong. You can do this, you can beat this. Hope, always hope.
Hang in there, Charity. You’re among friends here, and so many people that you’ve never met, who have read your story, are praying for you and willing you on along every step of the way. I’m a firm believer in other people’s prayers, I’m convinced that that’s what brought me through neutropenia when there was no one else in the house to notice or seek medical help for me. And whatever is worrying you, whatever questions you need answers to, it’s a certainty that there will be someone reading your posts who has been through the same thing and will be able to answer your questions or offer advice. You are not alone. Hold onto that. xxx